Question for all the guys and some girls out there????

justinj14 · 06-05-2007, 10:04 AM

Alright me and buddy of mine went to a restaurant the other night. Waitress we had was cute, me and her were flirting back and forth the whole time we were eating. So i decided to drop her note. She called me later on that night and we made plans to get together last Saturday.
So we go out and have dinner and some drinks, so asks me back to her place (she lives alone) and watch a movie. Without getting into details stuff happenes and I end up staying the night. Early the next morning I got up and wake her up to tell her I'm leaving. She gives me a hug and kiss and I told her I would talk to her soon.
Later that day on a phone call/text message we both agreed that we like each other a lot and definately want to see where this is going to go. We make plans that me and my friends are going to go to the restaurant she works at saturday night and i'm just going to go home with her at the end of the nite.
Here's the problem.
Shes not big into phone which most guys would jump up and down and go crazy about and i'm the same way, however when starting a relationship i do like to have communication. Anyway since then its been about 2 days and Ive really only talked to her online and I told her to call me when she got home from work last night and she didnt and she didnt respond to the text i sent her.
I guess my question is what do I do do i say screw it and just kinda try to have a little bit of convo between now and sat and just let saturday play out. Do i call her tonight and find why the no communication..
Help thanks guys/gals

**atruhondagrl** · 06-05-2007, 10:07 AM

I hate the phone. I get uncomfortable and I don't know what to say. I like text because I can do more at one time where as the phone seems to take my attention and mess it up. See if she is willing to compromise. Talk a little or just save talking for when you're with her. Believe it or not, some women just loathe the darned things!

illusionstwice · 06-05-2007, 10:19 AM

I would say if u two hate the phone then do not talk on it all the time. Either A) call her and let her know u are thinking about her (because that is what a girl would want to hear, esp if u really like her
B) Make sure you can see her as much as possible w/o being with her all the time (incase she gets freaked out)
c) I dont think majority of "getting to know eachother time" should be via instant messaging. So Take time to maybe just go for a walk, or something that doesnt cost money or little money just to get to know hers o she knows that u are making effort.

**atruhondagrl** · 06-05-2007, 10:22 AM

I prefer talking to people face to face. I don't know why. Maybe it's because of my job that I hate them... idk. But text when busy. I like spending time with people. In the same room.

justinj14 · 06-05-2007, 10:28 AM

yeah im not a huge fan of instant messaging and texting...i would rather talk to her on the phone or in person, but she works at a restaurant and works a lot f hours. so the whole seeing each other a lot is kinda impossible considering in the morning when im at work shes sleeping and then when i get out shes at work. I just dont wanna lose her. but i also dont wanna freak her out. God i hate being a guy
hopefully thursday i can go with a friend or smething to the restaurant and have a drink for an excuse to see her but i mean again i dont wanna freak her out

**atruhondagrl** · 06-05-2007, 10:29 AM

what day is she off?

justinj14 · 06-05-2007, 10:37 AM

she doesnt really have one because she makes her living with tips she tries to work everyday. But even if she had a day off i would probably not correspdond with me. I work at an acura dealership as a service advisor so my only days is every other sat and sunday

TommyD · 06-05-2007, 10:39 AM

Play it cool and just let it ride or she won't be interested long.

justinj14 · 06-05-2007, 10:42 AM

yeah thats what im trying to do but ive always been up tight with this kinda stuff like i try so hard for it not to fail that it ends up failing anyway

CivicCoupe06 · 06-05-2007, 10:55 AM

your foots in the door. thats all that matters.

***Excalibur*** · 06-05-2007, 11:05 AM

Maybe you should have this conversation with her w/o sounding like you wanna have all of you guy's time spent together. Me and my wife always like being on the phone, so it's hard to say. Just tell her how you feel and that you wanna spend more time with her. Try to have more time with her in person if possible. One on one time, not going to a party or something b/c then you're not getting to know her as good. Don't rush it though; good things are worth the wait.

tennisfan16 · 06-05-2007, 11:35 AM

umm so where are the pics of this chick, need to know if she is worth the trouble.

FG-Habanero-NavI · 06-05-2007, 11:38 AM

I like to text and use instant messaging programs...sometimes it's just a lot easier to say things via texting or internet than it is to say it face to face, or on the phone.. Only thing I use the phone for is phone sex.

MBK · 06-05-2007, 11:42 AM

lol are you 14... phone is infinetely better than nerd crap. in person is better than phone. telekenesis is by far the best. learn your lessons people.

justinj14 · 06-05-2007, 12:21 PM

yeah def more of an in person type of guy....you guys are all right...my foot is in the door i just gotta play it normal. i always do this i over stress about crap that i dont need to stress about.

***Excalibur*** · 06-05-2007, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by justinj14

yeah def more of an in person type of guy....you guys are all right...my foot is in the door i just gotta play it normal. i always do this i over stress about crap that i dont need to stress about.

Get yourself a hobby, lol. You have one, so order some parts, lol. That or do some diy's. Clear your headlights or something to pass the time.

CivicCoupe06 · 06-05-2007, 02:00 PM

^hahahahha good one.

justinj14 · 06-05-2007, 02:17 PM

yeah i know i, its kinda sad on my part

Quote:

Originally Posted by Excalibur

Get yourself a hobby, lol. You have one, so order some parts, lol. That or do some diy's. Clear your headlights or something to pass the time.

Ryd1ZZ · 06-05-2007, 04:49 PM

I can't really say much for what you should do, but DO NOT start showing up at her work to hang out. That would make you seem over-anxious to see her again and freak her out. I would wait until saturday to discuss how you guys feel, face to face. You already called and txt her so don't smuther her, wait for her to make the next move. Good luck man, hope you bag yourself a good one!

justinj14 · 06-06-2007, 11:42 AM

Well i'm back to freaking myself out again. im doing the same thing i did before which is over thinking... Check her away message and it hasnt changed since she went to work...she texted me last night at like 1230 to say she was going to bed....we are not together yet but she tells me she likes me but that doesnt mean she exclusive to just me....so of course when i see an away messasge that hasnt changed my first thought is that she never went home last night.....im just going crazy cant wait till thursdsay to go out to eat with some friends are her place and at least see her....

06-05-2007, 10:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
justinj14 Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 20 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Question for all the guys and some girls out there???? Alright me and buddy of mine went to a restaurant the other night. Waitress we had was cute, me and her were flirting back and forth the whole time we were eating. So i decided to drop her note. She called me later on that night and we made plans to get together last Saturday. So we go out and have dinner and some drinks, so asks me back to her place (she lives alone) and watch a movie. Without getting into details stuff happenes and I end up staying the night. Early the next morning I got up and wake her up to tell her I'm leaving. She gives me a hug and kiss and I told her I would talk to her soon. Later that day on a phone call/text message we both agreed that we like each other a lot and definately want to see where this is going to go. We make plans that me and my friends are going to go to the restaurant she works at saturday night and i'm just going to go home with her at the end of the nite. Here's the problem. Shes not big into phone which most guys would jump up and down and go crazy about and i'm the same way, however when starting a relationship i do like to have communication. Anyway since then its been about 2 days and Ive really only talked to her online and I told her to call me when she got home from work last night and she didnt and she didnt respond to the text i sent her. I guess my question is what do I do do i say screw it and just kinda try to have a little bit of convo between now and sat and just let saturday play out. Do i call her tonight and find why the no communication.. Help thanks guys/gals

06-05-2007, 10:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
atruhondagrl Brodie Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Near the escalator Posts: 24,181 iTrader: 23 / 100%	I hate the phone. I get uncomfortable and I don't know what to say. I like text because I can do more at one time where as the phone seems to take my attention and mess it up. See if she is willing to compromise. Talk a little or just save talking for when you're with her. Believe it or not, some women just loathe the darned things! __________________ AWD is RWD with training wheels.

06-05-2007, 10:22 AM	#4 (permalink)
atruhondagrl Brodie Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Near the escalator Posts: 24,181 iTrader: 23 / 100%	I prefer talking to people face to face. I don't know why. Maybe it's because of my job that I hate them... idk. But text when busy. I like spending time with people. In the same room. __________________ AWD is RWD with training wheels.

06-05-2007, 10:29 AM	#6 (permalink)
atruhondagrl Brodie Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Near the escalator Posts: 24,181 iTrader: 23 / 100%	what day is she off? __________________ AWD is RWD with training wheels.

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06-05-2007, 10:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
illusionstwice Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: DiRtY JerZ Age: 26 Posts: 19,567 The original --> "J" <-- iTrader: 8 / 100%	I would say if u two hate the phone then do not talk on it all the time. Either A) call her and let her know u are thinking about her (because that is what a girl would want to hear, esp if u really like her B) Make sure you can see her as much as possible w/o being with her all the time (incase she gets freaked out) c) I dont think majority of "getting to know eachother time" should be via instant messaging. So Take time to maybe just go for a walk, or something that doesnt cost money or little money just to get to know hers o she knows that u are making effort.

06-05-2007, 10:28 AM	#5 (permalink)
justinj14 Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 20 iTrader: 0 / 0%	yeah im not a huge fan of instant messaging and texting...i would rather talk to her on the phone or in person, but she works at a restaurant and works a lot f hours. so the whole seeing each other a lot is kinda impossible considering in the morning when im at work shes sleeping and then when i get out shes at work. I just dont wanna lose her. but i also dont wanna freak her out. God i hate being a guy hopefully thursday i can go with a friend or smething to the restaurant and have a drink for an excuse to see her but i mean again i dont wanna freak her out

06-05-2007, 10:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
justinj14 Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 20 iTrader: 0 / 0%	she doesnt really have one because she makes her living with tips she tries to work everyday. But even if she had a day off i would probably not correspdond with me. I work at an acura dealership as a service advisor so my only days is every other sat and sunday

06-05-2007, 10:39 AM	#8 (permalink)
TommyD Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,367 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Play it cool and just let it ride or she won't be interested long.

06-05-2007, 10:42 AM	#9 (permalink)
justinj14 Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 20 iTrader: 0 / 0%	yeah thats what im trying to do but ive always been up tight with this kinda stuff like i try so hard for it not to fail that it ends up failing anyway

06-05-2007, 10:55 AM	#10 (permalink)
CivicCoupe06 Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: USA Age: 23 Posts: 3,095 BMW CA (Fanatic) iTrader: 1 / 100%	your foots in the door. thats all that matters.

06-05-2007, 11:05 AM	#11 (permalink)
*Excalibur* VIP Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Converse, TX. Age: 25 Posts: 9,617 Jeremy iTrader: 25 / 100%	Maybe you should have this conversation with her w/o sounding like you wanna have all of you guy's time spent together. Me and my wife always like being on the phone, so it's hard to say. Just tell her how you feel and that you wanna spend more time with her. Try to have more time with her in person if possible. One on one time, not going to a party or something b/c then you're not getting to know her as good. Don't rush it though; good things are worth the wait.

06-05-2007, 11:35 AM	#12 (permalink)
tennisfan16 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: I have a cat. Age: 25 Posts: 3,740 iTrader: 3 / 100%	umm so where are the pics of this chick, need to know if she is worth the trouble.

06-05-2007, 11:38 AM	#13 (permalink)
FG-Habanero-NavI Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fort Walton Beach, FL Age: 29 Posts: 1,386 Ryan iTrader: 0 / 0%	I like to text and use instant messaging programs...sometimes it's just a lot easier to say things via texting or internet than it is to say it face to face, or on the phone.. Only thing I use the phone for is phone sex.

06-05-2007, 11:42 AM	#14 (permalink)
MBK Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 6,757 iTrader: 3 / 100%	lol are you 14... phone is infinetely better than nerd crap. in person is better than phone. telekenesis is by far the best. learn your lessons people.

06-05-2007, 12:21 PM	#15 (permalink)
justinj14 Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 20 iTrader: 0 / 0%	yeah def more of an in person type of guy....you guys are all right...my foot is in the door i just gotta play it normal. i always do this i over stress about crap that i dont need to stress about.

06-05-2007, 02:00 PM	#17 (permalink)
CivicCoupe06 Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: USA Age: 23 Posts: 3,095 BMW CA (Fanatic) iTrader: 1 / 100%	^hahahahha good one.

06-05-2007, 04:49 PM	#19 (permalink)
Ryd1ZZ Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: SoCal Age: 23 Posts: 541 Ryan iTrader: 1 / 100%	I can't really say much for what you should do, but DO NOT start showing up at her work to hang out. That would make you seem over-anxious to see her again and freak her out. I would wait until saturday to discuss how you guys feel, face to face. You already called and txt her so don't smuther her, wait for her to make the next move. Good luck man, hope you bag yourself a good one!

06-06-2007, 11:42 AM	#20 (permalink)
justinj14 Junior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 20 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Well i'm back to freaking myself out again. im doing the same thing i did before which is over thinking... Check her away message and it hasnt changed since she went to work...she texted me last night at like 1230 to say she was going to bed....we are not together yet but she tells me she likes me but that doesnt mean she exclusive to just me....so of course when i see an away messasge that hasnt changed my first thought is that she never went home last night.....im just going crazy cant wait till thursdsay to go out to eat with some friends are her place and at least see her....