Dinner after graduation???

07k20si · 04-23-2007, 12:06 AM

Hi All,

Well, I'm graduating from college on May 30, from CSULB. It's on a Wednesday at 5pm. I want to invite some friends, family, and coworkers. If I invite them to the ceremonty, am I obligated to take them to dinner or something?

Also, if we all go out to eat, should I have to pay for everyone?

I'm freaking broke, and have 12k in student loan I will soon have to start paying off. I want people to attend my graduation, but I dont wanna look cheap either.

I dont have rich or nice parents that will cover for a dinner or reception. Is it rude to to tell everyone that its dutch (you pay for yourself)?

Thanks for all your help and advice in advance.

Skylinegtr06 · 04-23-2007, 12:16 AM

If you have no choice(IE not cheap), I think they will understand and be willing to pay just to celebrate the occasion. You can always have a get together at a place and order some cheap entrees IE KFC?

Si_Chick · 04-23-2007, 01:38 AM

First off, you're inviting all those people to the ceremony? There's no limit? I thought it's usually 2-4 people limit. Anyways, I would say there shouldn't be a problem in going out for a nice dinner and having everyone pay for themselves. You just graduated, you're not money-bags Magoo. I think it would be idiotic and ignorant of them to expect you to pay.
And if they don't want to pay, screw them. My $0.02

**Yodums** · 04-23-2007, 01:43 AM

I would have thought it was the opposite - they should be paying for you and rewarding you on graduating.

**wing_gundam** · 04-23-2007, 01:45 AM

Hey, first off congrats!!!

second, no i don't think its rude. and third, I would think that they would want to all pitch in and treat you... I mean graduating is a big thing, and I don't know where you work or how the social stuff goes, but at a few of my jobs they always asked for like $10 each for someone's b-day or wedding etc. And when you have a couple hundred of close co workers it can get extreme fast.

The point is, its a comfort level. At first I was shocked when they first asked me for money, I was all "who are these guys and what did I walk into?" But you should always feel comfortable in expressing yourself.

07k20si · 04-23-2007, 10:56 AM

Cool thanks for all your opinions. There's some people at work that are like, "Well, if I'm driving all the way to Long Beach, there better be dinner."

I might just invite family for the ceremony and go out to eat with family on the Wednesday. Then, go out and party with friends on Friday night. And screw the people I work with.

Civic4u · 04-23-2007, 11:01 AM

You better asked them to pitch in.... Some custom...We assume who invited for the party PAY.... No KIDDING.....

illusionstwice · 04-23-2007, 11:20 AM

Congrats man!! Well if u have the time to invite all these ppl I am assuming everyone can chip in to buy YOU dinner?!?! No? I mean c'mon YOUR graduating!! And as far as your loans...I will trade my 40k in loans for your 12 ANY day of the week....just so u know. . . lol

04-23-2007, 12:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
07k20si Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 475 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Dinner after graduation??? Hi All, Well, I'm graduating from college on May 30, from CSULB. It's on a Wednesday at 5pm. I want to invite some friends, family, and coworkers. If I invite them to the ceremonty, am I obligated to take them to dinner or something? Also, if we all go out to eat, should I have to pay for everyone? I'm freaking broke, and have 12k in student loan I will soon have to start paying off. I want people to attend my graduation, but I dont wanna look cheap either. I dont have rich or nice parents that will cover for a dinner or reception. Is it rude to to tell everyone that its dutch (you pay for yourself)? Thanks for all your help and advice in advance.

04-23-2007, 01:43 AM	#4 (permalink)
Yodums Scrodums Join Date: May 2006 Location: Ottawa, Canada Posts: 8,433 HIRO - ಠ_ಠ iTrader: 10 / 100%	I would have thought it was the opposite - they should be paying for you and rewarding you on graduating. __________________ 2007 Taffeta White Civic Si Coupe

04-23-2007, 01:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
wing_gundam Smooth Moderator Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: T dot Posts: 17,796 Civic Type Stock iTrader: 9 / 100%	Hey, first off congrats!!! second, no i don't think its rude. and third, I would think that they would want to all pitch in and treat you... I mean graduating is a big thing, and I don't know where you work or how the social stuff goes, but at a few of my jobs they always asked for like $10 each for someone's b-day or wedding etc. And when you have a couple hundred of close co workers it can get extreme fast. The point is, its a comfort level. At first I was shocked when they first asked me for money, I was all "who are these guys and what did I walk into?" But you should always feel comfortable in expressing yourself. __________________ Trying to sell? Read the updated for sale forum rules here

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Skylinegtr06 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Chula Vista SD Age: 18 Posts: 5,745 edwyn(male) iTrader: 1 / 100%	If you have no choice(IE not cheap), I think they will understand and be willing to pay just to celebrate the occasion. You can always have a get together at a place and order some cheap entrees IE KFC?

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Si_Chick Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ottawa Age: 23 Posts: 2,756 iTrader: 0 / 0%	First off, you're inviting all those people to the ceremony? There's no limit? I thought it's usually 2-4 people limit. Anyways, I would say there shouldn't be a problem in going out for a nice dinner and having everyone pay for themselves. You just graduated, you're not money-bags Magoo. I think it would be idiotic and ignorant of them to expect you to pay. And if they don't want to pay, screw them. My $0.02

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07k20si Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 475 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Cool thanks for all your opinions. There's some people at work that are like, "Well, if I'm driving all the way to Long Beach, there better be dinner." I might just invite family for the ceremony and go out to eat with family on the Wednesday. Then, go out and party with friends on Friday night. And screw the people I work with.

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Civic4u Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Humble, TX Posts: 6,668 iTrader: 7 / 100%	You better asked them to pitch in.... Some custom...We assume who invited for the party PAY.... No KIDDING.....

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illusionstwice Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: DiRtY JerZ Age: 26 Posts: 19,567 The original --> "J" <-- iTrader: 8 / 100%	Congrats man!! Well if u have the time to invite all these ppl I am assuming everyone can chip in to buy YOU dinner?!?! No? I mean c'mon YOUR graduating!! And as far as your loans...I will trade my 40k in loans for your 12 ANY day of the week....just so u know. . . lol