So the Girlfriend says she wants a break...

SIpimpin13 · 01-27-2007, 11:12 AM

So last night on my way home from hanging out with my friends(which was like the first time I was able to be with my friends in a long long time) I give my girlfriend (of almost a year) a call because she hasn't called me at all that night, which is right away a sign that she's ticked off about something. Right away I can tell something is wrong with her...I finally get her to crack and she tells me whats on her mind. Basically, she told me she wants a break, and her reasoning behind it is that we don't see each other enough because I'm too busy for her...I won't lie, I am a busy guy...I'm taking 7 classes at college and I work two jobs(about 30 hours between both since school is going on). The stupid thing about her argument is that even with all of my other activities I have to tend to, I still have time to spend with her every day of the week. This leads me to thinking it's something else, or possibly there's another guy. Anyways, so my opinion of "taking a break" is that the relationship is good as done, stick a fork in it. She says she needs a few weeks to figure things out or some b/s. My argument to her was "what good will that do, what will that change?" I already know her true feelings now, and I'm smart enough to realize that a "break" really means it's over. After I expressed to her how upset I was and my feelings towards a "break", she also became incredibly upset and said she doesn't want a break anymore and that she didn't mean it. I think it's too late for that now that I know what she wanted in the first place.

Do you all agree with me in saying that when someone asks for a "break", the relationship is good as over? I thank you for reading this long rant!

***sh33t_0f_p4p3r*** · 01-27-2007, 11:16 AM

Bs if she loved you she wouldent need a break, sorry but IMO youll probly get more hurt if you take a break

skittleslegend · 01-27-2007, 11:17 AM

In all honesty, leave her alone. If she really wants you and it's not some other dude, the worst thing you can do is ignore a woman. Women in general just wanna know you're there and attentive and if you're not, they'll let you know how much they don't appreciate it. She can't be pissed at you about it. She's the one who called it off. If she can't appreciate you spending any time with her at all, it would lead me to believe there's a little more to it then she's saying. Not necessarily cheating or anything. But perhaps there's something bothering her on a deeper level.

Skyline4life · 01-27-2007, 11:49 AM

ehhh, i have been put in that situation a few times..But then my girl calls me back up crying saying shes sorry and stuff...cause she knows what happens if she loses me..Its not good. (thats a different story i don't wanna Hijack this thread)

but yea i do agree that breaks can end relationships. Thats why i talk them out of it, or we talk about it more.

Streethonda06 · 01-27-2007, 12:05 PM

a break = Over

thats that... if she is thinking it deep down she wants it over....

ivtec03 · 01-27-2007, 12:17 PM

Sorry to hear that man. I would agree with you, if she breaks first the damage has been done, and she still means it. I been in that situation before, so if she wants to break then let her do it. You should not have to deal with any girl's crap, or give up your school and work. You should be extremely proud of yourself by putting yourself to school and taking 7 classes.

I understand that you going to be upset about the relationship. I tell you man, let her take that break and you continue with your life. Within time she will come back to you.

My 2 cents.

20strong · 01-27-2007, 12:30 PM

If you go on a break live life dont worry about her. Remember your on a break its like vacation and if the break doesnt end then you arent oout any more time invested. Good luck. i feel ya my wife wanted to leave me well I was in Iraq.

[IVI] · 01-27-2007, 12:34 PM

According to Ross, a break means you're pretty much done. According to Rachel though, it doesn't.

SIpimpin13 · 01-27-2007, 12:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by [IVI]

According to Ross, a break means you're pretty much done. According to Rachel though, it doesn't.

are you quoting friends? :)

***sh33t_0f_p4p3r*** · 01-27-2007, 12:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by [IVI]

According to Ross, a break means you're pretty much done. According to Rachel though, it doesn't.

hahah true

[IVI] · 01-27-2007, 12:42 PM

The 5 words that started it all - "WE WERE ON A BREAK!"

Avenger · 01-27-2007, 12:48 PM

I wanted a 'break' from my girlfriend of 5+ years...........basically meant I want it to be over.

turb2006 · 01-27-2007, 01:02 PM

a break mean let me spend some times with someone else real quick and i'll get back at you when im done.... cause the person don't want to lose something they already have cause new founders might not last.. if i was you i'll squeeze every juice out of her for mentioning it and tell her that you are mad about it and have her buy you a present haha car parts lots of it.

aodmisery · 01-27-2007, 01:08 PM

break up with her then post her naughty pics on the ex-girlfriends thread...

kuziken · 01-27-2007, 01:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by aodmisery

break up with her then post her naughty pics on the ex-girlfriends thread...

+1+1+1

**firmhonda** · 01-27-2007, 01:53 PM

Hey man, tell her that you're cool with taking a break but don't be a dick about it. A little something to fall back on when you're drinking, ya know? It never hurts to stay on good terms with ex's just so you can "relive the past" every once in a while, you know what I mean??

Seriously, I would think that someone else is on the side and that she's just looking for the easy way out. She might not though man, she might just need a little time to think. I don't know her so I can't say what her reasoning is, just what it probably is.

Does that make sense? ehh, whateva.

SIpimpin13 · 01-27-2007, 02:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by firmhonda

Hey man, tell her that you're cool with taking a break but don't be a dick about it. A little something to fall back on when you're drinking, ya know? It never hurts to stay on good terms with ex's just so you can "relive the past" every once in a while, you know what I mean??

Seriously, I would think that someone else is on the side and that she's just looking for the easy way out. She might not though man, she might just need a little time to think. I don't know her so I can't say what her reasoning is, just what it probably is.

Does that make sense? ehh, whateva.

nah that totally makes sense bro, I just dont really wanna stick around anymore if she questions our relationship

Jester FPS · 01-27-2007, 02:29 PM

It's what girls do when they are feeling unnappreciated, hoping that her suggestion of a break will draw you closer, that's the reason why she decided against it afterwards.

If she didn't, you could be sure she just wanted it to be over.

**firmhonda** · 01-27-2007, 02:33 PM

I'm not saying to stick around in the relationship, call that over. What I'm saying is keep it cool between you two so that you can call her up when you're sitting there thinking about making an x-rated flick.
Friends with benifits, right?

Look at it this way, if you play your cards right you can still have the best part of the relationship without having to deal with the feeling of "is there another guy" and all that. Because you'll be the other guy.

SIpimpin13 · 01-27-2007, 02:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by firmhonda

I'm not saying to stick around in the relationship, call that over. What I'm saying is keep it cool between you two so that you can call her up when you're sitting there thinking about making an x-rated flick.
Friends with benifits, right?

Look at it this way, if you play your cards right you can still have the best part of the relationship without having to deal with the feeling of "is there another guy" and all that. Because you'll be the other guy.

hahaha, I like ur thought process!

01-27-2007, 11:12 AM	#1 (permalink)
SIpimpin13 Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Yorkville, IL Posts: 1,265 iTrader: 0 / 0%	So the Girlfriend says she wants a break... So last night on my way home from hanging out with my friends(which was like the first time I was able to be with my friends in a long long time) I give my girlfriend (of almost a year) a call because she hasn't called me at all that night, which is right away a sign that she's ticked off about something. Right away I can tell something is wrong with her...I finally get her to crack and she tells me whats on her mind. Basically, she told me she wants a break, and her reasoning behind it is that we don't see each other enough because I'm too busy for her...I won't lie, I am a busy guy...I'm taking 7 classes at college and I work two jobs(about 30 hours between both since school is going on). The stupid thing about her argument is that even with all of my other activities I have to tend to, I still have time to spend with her every day of the week. This leads me to thinking it's something else, or possibly there's another guy. Anyways, so my opinion of "taking a break" is that the relationship is good as done, stick a fork in it. She says she needs a few weeks to figure things out or some b/s. My argument to her was "what good will that do, what will that change?" I already know her true feelings now, and I'm smart enough to realize that a "break" really means it's over. After I expressed to her how upset I was and my feelings towards a "break", she also became incredibly upset and said she doesn't want a break anymore and that she didn't mean it. I think it's too late for that now that I know what she wanted in the first place. Do you all agree with me in saying that when someone asks for a "break", the relationship is good as over? I thank you for reading this long rant!

01-27-2007, 01:02 PM	#13 (permalink)
turb2006 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: San Francisco Posts: 10 iTrader: 0 / 0%	a break mean let me spend some times with someone else real quick and i'll get back at you when im done.... cause the person don't want to lose something they already have cause new founders might not last.. if i was you i'll squeeze every juice out of her for mentioning it and tell her that you are mad about it and have her buy you a present haha car parts lots of it. Last edited by turb2006; 01-27-2007 at 01:07 PM.

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01-27-2007, 11:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
*sh33t_0f_p4p3r* Ears bleed at 70mm Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: North Port, Florida Age: 22 Posts: 3,094 Tobie iTrader: 1 / 100%	Bs if she loved you she wouldent need a break, sorry but IMO youll probly get more hurt if you take a break

01-27-2007, 11:17 AM	#3 (permalink)
skittleslegend Senior Member Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Stowe, Vermont Age: 23 Posts: 7,825 iTrader: 1 / 100%	In all honesty, leave her alone. If she really wants you and it's not some other dude, the worst thing you can do is ignore a woman. Women in general just wanna know you're there and attentive and if you're not, they'll let you know how much they don't appreciate it. She can't be pissed at you about it. She's the one who called it off. If she can't appreciate you spending any time with her at all, it would lead me to believe there's a little more to it then she's saying. Not necessarily cheating or anything. But perhaps there's something bothering her on a deeper level.

01-27-2007, 11:49 AM	#4 (permalink)
Skyline4life Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Mundelein, IL Age: 19 Posts: 3,053 Evan iTrader: 0 / 0%	ehhh, i have been put in that situation a few times..But then my girl calls me back up crying saying shes sorry and stuff...cause she knows what happens if she loses me..Its not good. (thats a different story i don't wanna Hijack this thread) but yea i do agree that breaks can end relationships. Thats why i talk them out of it, or we talk about it more.

01-27-2007, 12:05 PM	#5 (permalink)
Streethonda06 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Aurora, IL Posts: 867 Greg iTrader: 1 / 100%	a break = Over thats that... if she is thinking it deep down she wants it over....

01-27-2007, 12:17 PM	#6 (permalink)
ivtec03 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Schaumburg, IL Age: 28 Posts: 231 iTrader: 0 / 0%	Sorry to hear that man. I would agree with you, if she breaks first the damage has been done, and she still means it. I been in that situation before, so if she wants to break then let her do it. You should not have to deal with any girl's crap, or give up your school and work. You should be extremely proud of yourself by putting yourself to school and taking 7 classes. I understand that you going to be upset about the relationship. I tell you man, let her take that break and you continue with your life. Within time she will come back to you. My 2 cents.

01-27-2007, 12:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
20strong Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Posts: 2,526 Marcus iTrader: 0 / 0%	If you go on a break live life dont worry about her. Remember your on a break its like vacation and if the break doesnt end then you arent oout any more time invested. Good luck. i feel ya my wife wanted to leave me well I was in Iraq.

01-27-2007, 12:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
[IVI] Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Columbus, Ohio Age: 31 Posts: 1,634 Bryan iTrader: 0 / 0%	According to Ross, a break means you're pretty much done. According to Rachel though, it doesn't.

01-27-2007, 12:42 PM	#11 (permalink)
[IVI] Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Columbus, Ohio Age: 31 Posts: 1,634 Bryan iTrader: 0 / 0%	The 5 words that started it all - "WE WERE ON A BREAK!"

01-27-2007, 12:48 PM	#12 (permalink)
Avenger Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Kitchener, ON Age: 29 Posts: 897 Rob iTrader: 0 / 0%	I wanted a 'break' from my girlfriend of 5+ years...........basically meant I want it to be over.

01-27-2007, 01:08 PM	#14 (permalink)
aodmisery Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Norcal Age: 27 Posts: 1,801 MEOW!! iTrader: 1 / 100%	break up with her then post her naughty pics on the ex-girlfriends thread...

01-27-2007, 01:53 PM	#16 (permalink)
firmhonda Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: DF-Dub Age: 25 Posts: 10,982 Justin Credible. iTrader: 0 / 0%	Hey man, tell her that you're cool with taking a break but don't be a dick about it. A little something to fall back on when you're drinking, ya know? It never hurts to stay on good terms with ex's just so you can "relive the past" every once in a while, you know what I mean?? Seriously, I would think that someone else is on the side and that she's just looking for the easy way out. She might not though man, she might just need a little time to think. I don't know her so I can't say what her reasoning is, just what it probably is. Does that make sense? ehh, whateva.

01-27-2007, 02:29 PM	#18 (permalink)
Jester FPS Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 1,257 iTrader: 6 / 100%	It's what girls do when they are feeling unnappreciated, hoping that her suggestion of a break will draw you closer, that's the reason why she decided against it afterwards. If she didn't, you could be sure she just wanted it to be over.

01-27-2007, 02:33 PM	#19 (permalink)
firmhonda Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: DF-Dub Age: 25 Posts: 10,982 Justin Credible. iTrader: 0 / 0%	I'm not saying to stick around in the relationship, call that over. What I'm saying is keep it cool between you two so that you can call her up when you're sitting there thinking about making an x-rated flick. Friends with benifits, right? Look at it this way, if you play your cards right you can still have the best part of the relationship without having to deal with the feeling of "is there another guy" and all that. Because you'll be the other guy.