So my mom is finally getting a divorce

phillipguru · 01-22-2007, 11:11 AM

so my mom, who lives in ireland is finally leaving her dick midgety husband for a number of reasons.

I charged myself with setting up an apartment for when shes comes back to the states. A car soon after that and possibly a job at my company.

Its strange to be 23 and taking care of your 48 year old mother. Not bad, but definitely a challenge. Between work and college its a little stressfull.

I figure this is how I will do it. Setup and lightly furnish an apartment in johnson city. When she gets here get her to the dmv for a new license (she has been out of the country for like 6-7 years). Get her on my cell phone plan for $10 a month. Pay her rent for an estimated 3 months. Get her a bank account with $500 in it for things like woman products and food ect... movie rentals and other forms of entertainment while she secures a job. After she gets a job I will drive and pick her up when she gets a job for a month or so. Then finance a car or cosign a car.

Its pretty stressfull so i'm mostly just venting. But I would love you people to add your 2 or 3 or 4 cents into it.

I figure apartment setup costs 800-1000 for the first month
utils 60-75 a month for basic water/electricity
10 bucks to add her on my cell plan
350-400 a month for a 1 bedroom apartment (got to love the south, cheap)
then 150 a month for groceries
and 100 a month for movie rentals or other forms of entertainment
and a $500 account to start her with

btw yes she has no money really to come out with

Utsaappt802 · 01-22-2007, 11:28 AM

Man tough breaks but I think by you doing all of this is a great thing. What a great son Im sure any mother would love to have. I think everything you have listed sounds very reasonable/ Good luck with getting her settled in the states and try not to stress out too much in the mean time!

***Sleepy*** · 01-22-2007, 11:38 AM

Props to you for taking care of your mother. +1 for you

phillipguru · 01-22-2007, 11:52 AM

This is my makeshift plan right now, she doesnt have money, and if she does its not much more than a few hundred euro.

I'm no means rich but i have money saved.

What i'm hoping for is paying her living expenses for 2-3 months untill she gets a job and on her feat then getting her a car which of course I will pick. I'm thinking a 2002-2003 ML320.

I'm going to try to spin all this in as positive light for me as possible. IE new apartment to buy stuff for ( i will still be living in the house i had built ), new tv , new car. Keeping myself positive will definitely take the burden of parental guilt off of her. I have to act as if its no thing to dump 5 grand so hopefully she wont stress out that i'm her kid paying for adult things for her.

***Sleepy*** · 01-22-2007, 11:57 AM

My story is a lot different then yours but I had to pack up from Vancouver and move back east to look after my mother who was dying from Cancer. The doc's gave her 2-30 years to live but I knew in my heart it wouldnt be long.

As she got sicker we reversed rolls, I cooked cleaned and paid the bills, took her to her chemo appointments. It wasn't fun and very stressful but I never let her know that. I always had a smile on my face even on the worst of days.

I would do it over again in a heart beat to be honest. I think what you are doing is awesome. Just keep your chin up and never show your mom your stress.

SIcBoy · 01-22-2007, 12:01 PM

man thats a good son, good lookin out
hope everything works out

Kakashi · 01-22-2007, 12:35 PM

Hmmn

Repped.

mikepesikan · 01-22-2007, 12:44 PM

In life you get what you give..........there should be some good things coming your way.

You should keep the mind-set that your doing this as a gift & expect no re-payment of any kind, this will prevent any hard feelings down the line.

+1 to your Rep

phillipguru · 01-22-2007, 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mikepesikan

In life you get what you give..........there should be some good things coming your way.

You should keep the mind-set that your doing this as a gift & expect no re-payment of any kind, this will prevent any hard feelings down the line.

+1 to your Rep

Thanks, yeah i dont expect any repayment. I know she will try once she can but i'll probably take the money and just put it back in her purse or something like that.

skittleslegend · 01-22-2007, 01:20 PM

Keep in mind that it may not be that easy for her to find a decent job that she can afford all of the bills you're going to hand her after 2-3 months. I think it's great you're setting everything up for her, but don't set it up that she can't afford it and you have to keep shelling out more money that you originally intended for her.

phillipguru · 01-22-2007, 01:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by skittleslegend

Keep in mind that it may not be that easy for her to find a decent job that she can afford all of the bills you're going to hand her after 2-3 months. I think it's great you're setting everything up for her, but don't set it up that she can't afford it and you have to keep shelling out more money that you originally intended for her.

Yes I have taken this into account, I expect this, and I expect her to only make 7 an hour or so. once she is fully setup I will probably pay her car payment and insurance for a year or so. I'm awaiting more info for my mom such as when exactly she will need to leave. How much money she has, I sent her all my financial info so she can calculate into it.

This is a good experience, I will pretty much know how to send my kid to college when i trick a women into marrying me and birthing my 11lb baby

skittleslegend · 01-22-2007, 01:41 PM

Um...I'm not going to ask.....lol

But that's a big baby...

phillipguru · 01-22-2007, 01:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by skittleslegend

Um...I'm not going to ask.....lol

But that's a big baby...

I came out at about 11 lbs and 23.5 inches long. yeah i basically came out the size of a 2 year old, so anytime i get serious with a girlfriend i tell them sorry in advance

phillipguru · 01-22-2007, 11:55 PM

NEWS F'ING FLASH OF THE CENTURY

so the reason for the split is that he has been increasingly aggressive towards my mom, not physically (mom is 5'11 and extremely buff) (he is 5'4 irish with 11inch arms) but more mentally and verbally abusive. He was getting headaches for the past 2 months when his assholeness kicked in.

He got a cat scan today and has a front lobe tumor that is causing the behavior and obscenitys. So hopefully thats the only cause of his psychosis and that they can successfully remove it.

I thank everyone for their input, but now it looks like no body knows whats going on.

Life is screwed up aint it

01-22-2007, 11:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
phillipguru Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: rogersville, tn Age: 25 Posts: 364 iTrader: 1 / 100%	So my mom is finally getting a divorce so my mom, who lives in ireland is finally leaving her dick midgety husband for a number of reasons. I charged myself with setting up an apartment for when shes comes back to the states. A car soon after that and possibly a job at my company. Its strange to be 23 and taking care of your 48 year old mother. Not bad, but definitely a challenge. Between work and college its a little stressfull. I figure this is how I will do it. Setup and lightly furnish an apartment in johnson city. When she gets here get her to the dmv for a new license (she has been out of the country for like 6-7 years). Get her on my cell phone plan for $10 a month. Pay her rent for an estimated 3 months. Get her a bank account with $500 in it for things like woman products and food ect... movie rentals and other forms of entertainment while she secures a job. After she gets a job I will drive and pick her up when she gets a job for a month or so. Then finance a car or cosign a car. Its pretty stressfull so i'm mostly just venting. But I would love you people to add your 2 or 3 or 4 cents into it. I figure apartment setup costs 800-1000 for the first month utils 60-75 a month for basic water/electricity 10 bucks to add her on my cell plan 350-400 a month for a 1 bedroom apartment (got to love the south, cheap) then 150 a month for groceries and 100 a month for movie rentals or other forms of entertainment and a $500 account to start her with btw yes she has no money really to come out with

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01-22-2007, 11:28 AM	#2 (permalink)
Utsaappt802 Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Atlanta Age: 27 Posts: 5,617 RyanT. iTrader: 0 / 0%	Man tough breaks but I think by you doing all of this is a great thing. What a great son Im sure any mother would love to have. I think everything you have listed sounds very reasonable/ Good luck with getting her settled in the states and try not to stress out too much in the mean time!

01-22-2007, 11:38 AM	#3 (permalink)
*Sleepy* Lover of the ladies Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: somewhere Age: 33 Posts: 12,484 Susan iTrader: 2 / 100%	Props to you for taking care of your mother. +1 for you

01-22-2007, 11:52 AM	#4 (permalink)
phillipguru Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: rogersville, tn Age: 25 Posts: 364 iTrader: 1 / 100%	This is my makeshift plan right now, she doesnt have money, and if she does its not much more than a few hundred euro. I'm no means rich but i have money saved. What i'm hoping for is paying her living expenses for 2-3 months untill she gets a job and on her feat then getting her a car which of course I will pick. I'm thinking a 2002-2003 ML320. I'm going to try to spin all this in as positive light for me as possible. IE new apartment to buy stuff for ( i will still be living in the house i had built ), new tv , new car. Keeping myself positive will definitely take the burden of parental guilt off of her. I have to act as if its no thing to dump 5 grand so hopefully she wont stress out that i'm her kid paying for adult things for her.

01-22-2007, 11:57 AM	#5 (permalink)
*Sleepy* Lover of the ladies Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: somewhere Age: 33 Posts: 12,484 Susan iTrader: 2 / 100%	My story is a lot different then yours but I had to pack up from Vancouver and move back east to look after my mother who was dying from Cancer. The doc's gave her 2-30 years to live but I knew in my heart it wouldnt be long. As she got sicker we reversed rolls, I cooked cleaned and paid the bills, took her to her chemo appointments. It wasn't fun and very stressful but I never let her know that. I always had a smile on my face even on the worst of days. I would do it over again in a heart beat to be honest. I think what you are doing is awesome. Just keep your chin up and never show your mom your stress.

01-22-2007, 12:01 PM	#6 (permalink)
SIcBoy Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: peoria az Age: 24 Posts: 3,431 jr iTrader: 3 / 100%	man thats a good son, good lookin out hope everything works out

01-22-2007, 12:35 PM	#7 (permalink)
Kakashi Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Aurora CO Age: 22 Posts: 3,706 iTrader: 1 / 100%	Hmmn Repped.

01-22-2007, 12:44 PM	#8 (permalink)
mikepesikan Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: N. Texas Posts: 410 iTrader: 2 / 100%	In life you get what you give..........there should be some good things coming your way. You should keep the mind-set that your doing this as a gift & expect no re-payment of any kind, this will prevent any hard feelings down the line. +1 to your Rep

01-22-2007, 01:20 PM	#10 (permalink)
skittleslegend Senior Member Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Stowe, Vermont Age: 23 Posts: 7,825 iTrader: 1 / 100%	Keep in mind that it may not be that easy for her to find a decent job that she can afford all of the bills you're going to hand her after 2-3 months. I think it's great you're setting everything up for her, but don't set it up that she can't afford it and you have to keep shelling out more money that you originally intended for her.

01-22-2007, 01:41 PM	#12 (permalink)
skittleslegend Senior Member Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Stowe, Vermont Age: 23 Posts: 7,825 iTrader: 1 / 100%	Um...I'm not going to ask.....lol But that's a big baby...

01-22-2007, 11:55 PM	#14 (permalink)
phillipguru Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: rogersville, tn Age: 25 Posts: 364 iTrader: 1 / 100%	NEWS F'ING FLASH OF THE CENTURY so the reason for the split is that he has been increasingly aggressive towards my mom, not physically (mom is 5'11 and extremely buff) (he is 5'4 irish with 11inch arms) but more mentally and verbally abusive. He was getting headaches for the past 2 months when his assholeness kicked in. He got a cat scan today and has a front lobe tumor that is causing the behavior and obscenitys. So hopefully thats the only cause of his psychosis and that they can successfully remove it. I thank everyone for their input, but now it looks like no body knows whats going on. Life is screwed up aint it