How do you deal with a breakup?

[That_Si_Guy]

My 3 year relationship might be coming to an end and Im having a hard time dealing with it. Any advice?

[Kakashi]

try your best to work it out.

i just broke up with my girl in a 3 year. i felt so bitter afterwards its not even funny. And that was a mutual breakup.

luckily, few weeks later she came back to me, and we got back together(with some small mods here and there).

[sichick]

if you know that person is for you than try anything possibl e to make it work never try to take the easy way out, i have been with my guy 3 yrs next month and trust me everyone has there ups and downs and both people have to put 100% in thier relationship 100% not anything less

[foolio_67]

I'd make a big effort to talk about the relationship to see what can be done to fix it. When you're with somebody for so long, it's obviously worth a TON of effort to work it out.

[That_Si_Guy]

Thats exactly what happened, I stopped trying in our relationship. I never talked to her or helped her cook/clean, I never wanted to go out anywhere. Whenever she would go out I would get suspicious and get mad at her and poke fun at her when she was around.

We were talking about marriage and she said that she doesnt want to live the rest of her life like that, and I realized what a mistake Im making. I told her I would change and to trust me that I would. What else can I do?

[sichick]

if her she loves you enough she will stay if she doesnt shes stupid

[sichick]

in my book if your not a cheater, gambler, drunk, steal, a criminal, or a liar your an alright guy a good to keep

[That_Si_Guy]

For the past week, Ive been text messaging her little love notes in the morning then I call her at my lunch break to check in. I love this girl to death and want her as my wife, but I dunno if the damage is permanent.

[NightKidsGTR]

Obviously, you want to fix it, so that's a good start. Just take the time to be with her and talk to her. Plan a night out or a night in where you two can be alone. Just put in a little effort, you'll be aiight. Those are my suggestions for now; maybe I'll come up with some more in a bit

[dentrecords]

I know the feeling man.

I nearly lost my girl that I've been living with for 2 years, and seeing for 3+ now.

I would ask myself if I saw myself marrying/living the rest of my life with this person. The answer for both myself and my girlfriend was yes, and that was the main thing that brought us back together.

If not, I'd try to keep myself occupied with as much as possible to keep my mind off it. Easier said than done.

Relationships are tricky :P

[foolio_67]

Make sure you both have alot of free time, and get together to discuss what you and her are feeling about whats happening. I mean a long time so everything is put out in the open. Once you know what the other person is feeling then you will have the ability to talk about how to fix these problems. I truly don't like talking about that kind of stuff with my girlfriend, but its completely essential to a good relationship.

Well thats my advice:)

[That_Si_Guy]

Originally Posted by foolio_67

Make sure you both have alot of free time, and get together to discuss what you and her are feeling about whats happening. I mean a long time so everything is put out in the open. Once you know what the other person is feeling then you will have the ability to talk about how to fix these problems. I truly don't like talking about that kind of stuff with my girlfriend, but its completely essential to a good relationship.

Well thats my advice:)

That is good advice, we never used to talk about our problems, instead we would bottle them up until it boiled into a fight. The hard part is that she said shes thinking about dating other guys, but doesnt want to break up with me. Im not sure what to make of that, good or bad.

[sichick]

SHES STUPID! if she doesnt want to make it work

[foolio_67]

My bet is that she does want to stay with you and not date other guys. One of the major things I have learned is girls don't say what they mean(surprise), even though it makes our lives that much harder they still do it. I'm not sure why they do, maybe so we will pay closer attention to them(girls don't know the anwser either, so don't ask them).

Don't wait to have the talk, do it as soon as possible. Until you have this talk, the relationship will gradually go downhill. As much as guys don't really like to talk about "feelings" and "relationships" you have to. Sooo go at it!!!

[sichick]

Originally Posted by That_Si_Guy

For the past week, Ive been text messaging her little love notes in the morning then I call her at my lunch break to check in. I love this girl to death and want her as my wife, but I dunno if the damage is permanent.

i miss when my boyfriend use to do that guys tend to get confrotable

[6spdChick]

You said you want her as your wife.... So if you guys were really serious before and you think this is just a phase then maybe you should go for it and ask her to marry you right now.

[That_Si_Guy]

Originally Posted by 6spdChick

You said you want her as your wife.... So if you guys were really serious before and you think this is just a phase then maybe you should go for it and ask her to marry you right now.

2 weeks ago she was showing me engagement rings for men and women out of a magazine and told me which one she liked the most. She does that every once in awhile. She also offered me to move in with her, but Im not a fan of her place because its too small, so I refused. And now all this happened and its really all my fault, I dont want to lose her because I stopped trying

[striker_1818]

Originally Posted by That_Si_Guy

2 weeks ago she was showing me engagement rings for men and women out of a magazine and told me which one she liked the most. She does that every once in awhile. She also offered me to move in with her, but Im not a fan of her place because its too small, so I refused. And now all this happened and its really all my fault, I dont want to lose her because I stopped trying

Get over her and find another girl...
life's too short to get married young.
There's no such thing as "the one". You're not in love with her but your ego got damaged when she stopped caring about you so you're obsessed over that fact and your little mind is simply playing games with you.
Anyways, part of being in a relationship is having fights so chill kiddo
Go out, have fun, meet girls and enjoy life

[reelbigfish241]

Originally Posted by striker_1818

Get over her and find another girl...
life's too short to get married young.
There's no such thing as "the one". You're not in love with her but your ego got damaged when she stopped caring about you so you're obsessed over that fact and your little mind is simply playing games with you.
Anyways, part of being in a relationship is having fights so chill kiddo
Go out, have fun, meet girls and enjoy life

Not to sound like a jerk, but I hate when people call people older than them kiddo or other names like that. And getting married young can be a good thing. He's 23, which is definately old enough to get married. He sounds like a mature person, and if he wants to get married, more power to him.

For some of us, well at least me, the dating game is boring and relationships that don't have a future in sight are pointless after high school. Just my opinion though.

I'm younger than both of you (20 years old) and I know for a fact that I want to get married to my girlfriend whom I love very much. I may ask her this Christmas in fact. If he loves her, really truly loves her, he will find a way to make it work.

And I do agree with you that there is no such thing as "the one", because you can eventually love anyone you're with. But, if he decides that she is the only one that he wants to be with for the rest of his life, then that's the way it is.

You've probably heard this a thousand times, but relationships are about compromises. Took me a failed 4 year relationship to truly know what that means.

With my girlfriend now of a little over a year and a half I know that there is no way in hell that both of you can be completely happy in EVERY situation.

Good luck man, and don't give up. If you love her like it sounds like you do, win her back. Do something romantic, and make sure she knows that you are serious about changing.

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