Need some advice from some people..I guess..

Skyline4life · 08-21-2006, 02:33 PM

Me and my gf have been going out for 2 months..But we have known each other longer then a year..Shes moving to Arizona at the end of August (from chicago), we never thought we would end up dateing..But we started to hang out alot more, and talk more then we used to and well shit happend..I knew i was getting into this relationship knowing she is going to move 1500 miles away from me. And even if i didnt ask her out, i would have regreated it..She was the girl who told me "Don't give up, I'm sure you'll find a girl that means alot to you." and turns out the girl i found was her.

We both know its going to be hard to end this when she leaves. we have gotten so close, I just don't know how i will be able to cope with losing a best friend, a girl who ment so much to me. I know i will end up doing some thing stupid, yea i'm only 17 but still shes my best friend, She ment alot to me its just going to be hard to see some one who i care about leave me. I do plan on going to school down there and moving down there (that was even befor i met her)

I mean i brught her from feeling low in life, to some thing that words can't describe. but i just hate it that the fact i find one girl out of the few i dated that i got along with so well, and felt so much, she has to move 1500 miles.

I don't know if you guys can really say anything..I guess I'm just saying things that i'm thinking.
----

But what we plan on doing this whole long break thing to see if it works out. We well be seeing each other during the year when she comes up and visits me..but idk..I just i'm just ranting on. If someone can shine some light on what i shuld say to her? or we shudl talk about? And i know i wont be in any shape to get into another relationship with another girl anytime soon.

**CameronJr9** · 08-21-2006, 02:45 PM

Where's Dawn? We need her infinate wisdom on the subject of long distance relationships.

Anyway, is your girl moving down there permanently? Or just for school? Shed a little more light on that. As for your school plans, when do you go down there? Next fall?

Without that information, it's a tough call. What do you guys want to do? Are you going to stay "together?" Or are you going to break up but still be friends? That talk should come first if it hasn't already. Find out how you both feel and what your intentions are.

No matter what happens, you're going to find that you become jealous. Fight it. Jealousy is one of the most ridiculous aspects of a relationship. Unless you KNOW she's doing something behind your back, there's no reason for it. And it sounds like you guys were good friends before all this happened, so there's no reason to think she'll do anything.

So, before I can give you any decent advice, a little more info is needed.

Skyline4life · 08-21-2006, 02:53 PM

eh sorry. No we both still have 2 years left of high school. (Don't give me that its a HS relationship for get about it)

We talked and we wanna do a long distance thing, but not relationship..a break. but our relationship is on hold untill we see each other. She even said she wont be dateing. Shes moving down there permintly. we talked and she said she wants to wait for me and stuff.

**CameronJr9** · 08-21-2006, 03:11 PM

Well, since you said not to say it, I won't. But...I know from experience that couples go into something like this with the best intentions, yet more times than none things end up differently than you planned. That's not to say that you guys won't make it. I hope you do. It sounds like you really like this girl, and enough to write about it publicly.

With as many relationships that started young that I've seen tank, I've probably seen the same number survive. I know a lot of people that are married to their high school sweethearts. So there is hope, it's just that distance adds (or takes away?) so much from the relationship.

Since you've already had the talk, my next bit of advice is this, make a decision on how involved you both want to be. It sounds almost like you guys are single now, but you won't see other people and will "date" each other when you're in the same town?? That's rough. Like I said before, you go in with the best intentions...

Shall I go on?

08-21-2006, 02:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
Skyline4life Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Mundelein, IL Age: 19 Posts: 3,051 Evan iTrader: 0 / 0%	Need some advice from some people..I guess.. Me and my gf have been going out for 2 months..But we have known each other longer then a year..Shes moving to Arizona at the end of August (from chicago), we never thought we would end up dateing..But we started to hang out alot more, and talk more then we used to and well shit happend..I knew i was getting into this relationship knowing she is going to move 1500 miles away from me. And even if i didnt ask her out, i would have regreated it..She was the girl who told me "Don't give up, I'm sure you'll find a girl that means alot to you." and turns out the girl i found was her. We both know its going to be hard to end this when she leaves. we have gotten so close, I just don't know how i will be able to cope with losing a best friend, a girl who ment so much to me. I know i will end up doing some thing stupid, yea i'm only 17 but still shes my best friend, She ment alot to me its just going to be hard to see some one who i care about leave me. I do plan on going to school down there and moving down there (that was even befor i met her) I mean i brught her from feeling low in life, to some thing that words can't describe. but i just hate it that the fact i find one girl out of the few i dated that i got along with so well, and felt so much, she has to move 1500 miles. I don't know if you guys can really say anything..I guess I'm just saying things that i'm thinking. ---- But what we plan on doing this whole long break thing to see if it works out. We well be seeing each other during the year when she comes up and visits me..but idk..I just i'm just ranting on. If someone can shine some light on what i shuld say to her? or we shudl talk about? And i know i wont be in any shape to get into another relationship with another girl anytime soon.

08-21-2006, 02:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
CameronJr9 Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Louisville, KY Age: 28 Posts: 26,334 Back and Forth Forever iTrader: 6 / 100%	Where's Dawn? We need her infinate wisdom on the subject of long distance relationships. Anyway, is your girl moving down there permanently? Or just for school? Shed a little more light on that. As for your school plans, when do you go down there? Next fall? Without that information, it's a tough call. What do you guys want to do? Are you going to stay "together?" Or are you going to break up but still be friends? That talk should come first if it hasn't already. Find out how you both feel and what your intentions are. No matter what happens, you're going to find that you become jealous. Fight it. Jealousy is one of the most ridiculous aspects of a relationship. Unless you KNOW she's doing something behind your back, there's no reason for it. And it sounds like you guys were good friends before all this happened, so there's no reason to think she'll do anything. So, before I can give you any decent advice, a little more info is needed. __________________

08-21-2006, 03:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
CameronJr9 Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Louisville, KY Age: 28 Posts: 26,334 Back and Forth Forever iTrader: 6 / 100%	Well, since you said not to say it, I won't. But...I know from experience that couples go into something like this with the best intentions, yet more times than none things end up differently than you planned. That's not to say that you guys won't make it. I hope you do. It sounds like you really like this girl, and enough to write about it publicly. With as many relationships that started young that I've seen tank, I've probably seen the same number survive. I know a lot of people that are married to their high school sweethearts. So there is hope, it's just that distance adds (or takes away?) so much from the relationship. Since you've already had the talk, my next bit of advice is this, make a decision on how involved you both want to be. It sounds almost like you guys are single now, but you won't see other people and will "date" each other when you're in the same town?? That's rough. Like I said before, you go in with the best intentions... Shall I go on? __________________

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
Dumb Laws	C2i0v0i1c	Water Cooler	58	10-03-2008 10:27 AM
10 richest people in the world - and what they do	webby	Water Cooler	21	09-20-2008 09:11 PM
AutoX 101	brooklynscat69	Autocross & Sanctioned Drag Racing	21	01-11-2008 09:22 PM
Pit Bulls	dentrecords	Water Cooler	25	10-20-2007 07:17 PM
Feeling the need to rant..	jc21	Water Cooler	21	08-03-2006 03:29 PM

08-21-2006, 02:53 PM	#3 (permalink)
Skyline4life Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Mundelein, IL Age: 19 Posts: 3,051 Evan iTrader: 0 / 0%	eh sorry. No we both still have 2 years left of high school. (Don't give me that its a HS relationship for get about it) We talked and we wanna do a long distance thing, but not relationship..a break. but our relationship is on hold untill we see each other. She even said she wont be dateing. Shes moving down there permintly. we talked and she said she wants to wait for me and stuff.