No feelings anymore?

[hiwind]

You know that feeling when you see a girl and your heart feels like its gonna jump out of your chest and all you can think about it lol

After breaking up with 6+ year gf 4 years ago I've had steady gf's but nothing really lasted, get bored easily now....

I mean I see girls I like I'll go talk to em but there's really no excitement now, what can I do to get back that feeling

[Slowroll90]

maybe somewhere in the back of ur mind u miss that gf of 6 yrs
idk
i think i know what ur talking about
its like nothing clicks
theres just nothing there



or maybe its the fact that u've gotten numb to excitement of a new girl
go with out for a little while
just go cold turkey
i bet that should get some excitement
just an idea

[hiwind]

Trust me I'm completely over her! Long time ago.

I tried to not go out for 3 months but that didn't work either, thought I might be depressed but I'm as happy as can be with no complaints in the world at the moment other than the issue above

[ImTheVoiceOfGod]

Maybe you bat for the other side now (?)

[Zeuceone]

[hiwind]

Originally Posted by ImTheVoiceOfGod

Maybe you bat for the other side now (?)

F*ck NO! Not ever..... I knew someone was gonna post some stupid sh*t like that lol

[phantom-civic]

sounds like you've got nothing that's challenging to you.

I felt kinda similar after my first year of university; one party or night out after another finding someone to have fun with wasn't really a problem, no chase, no work. I finally found my gf now of two years who made me chase her to get what i wanted. Having to chase and work for her made me more pumped about the whole situation and made me enjoy being with her that much more when things fell into place.

Maybe you need to find someone who will make you chase them (and are worth chasing). I hear alot of people say that guys love chase more than anthing, might work for you. GL

(*edit) just a post post thought; you might (if you haven't already) tried changing up watering holes. Sometimes you just loose interest in certain types of chicks or scenes, i know i would get burned out on clubs, move to house parties or small bars, or move from preppy girls to punky or whatever ladies.

[ryryninja]

6 years is a long time. I'm thinking part you of missing the experiences you had with the ex-gf. Not necessarily the person, but then you shouldn't hold that against the next girl you try to commit to. The next girl is never the same as the last, nor should you make it the same. Try dating outside your comfort zone and see how that turns out.

Automatically we wish that we didnt have to go thru all the necessary trials in building a relationship, but thats just a part of what makes it work or not.

[FGRedline]

Maybe you're just a "hit it and quit it" kinda guy now.

[ryryninja]

Originally Posted by phantom-civic

sounds like you've got nothing that's challenging to you.

I felt kinda similar after my first year of university; one party or night out after another finding someone to have fun with wasn't really a problem, no chase, no work. I finally found my gf now of two years who made me chase her to get what i wanted. Having to chase and work for her made me more pumped about the whole situation and made me enjoy being with her that much more when things fell into place.

Maybe you need to find someone who will make you chase them (and are worth chasing). I hear alot of people say that guys love chase more than anthing, might work for you. GL

Theres no fun in getting the girl that puts out if you give her candy lol. I agree in the chase is great but only to a certain extent.

[hiwind]

Mabye I need to find new places to meet woman, clubs/bars have just become to repetitive and no challenge.

[ryryninja]

Originally Posted by hiwind

Mabye I need to find new places to meet woman, clubs/bars have just become to repetitive and no challenge.

You go to bars/clubs to find a women to mess around with.... not a life partner

[P1ng]

me and my friend were talking about that the other day... i know exactly what u mean dude and have yet to come to a conclusion other then i need to go out of town and meet new people.

[phantom-civic]

Originally Posted by ryryninja

Theres no fun in getting the girl that puts out if you give her candy lol. I agree in the chase is great but only to a certain extent.

for sure "a take it if offered" philosophy is a good a proven one.

Sorta relevent one of my favorite lines of all time from 'Buying the Cow'

Talking about finding a trophy wife symbolized by a trophy marlin
*Guys in Strip Club*
"So which one of these ladies is my marlin?"
"Oh we're done fishing for today man, this is the exotic fishy aquarium....oh looking a petting tank!"

[AdamLXCIV]

Maybe you're scared of getting hurt again, or wasting your time in a relationship, 'cause you think it won't work.

[eXe]

Maybe you think youre over her when youre really not. I was there, but I wasnt in denial . Thought I was never going to be able to find another girl and feel the same, I did, and now we are a year and a half into a serious relationship today. Youll find the lucky one, dont try so hard.

[bsbabcock]

Maybe you're just becoming more mature... all that giddy girlie lovey dovey stuff goes out the window when you finally hitch up anyway. (jaded) :/ It's all hormones that are just designed to cloud your better judgment and get you into trouble.. Then you wake up MWK.. married with kids. God help you then.. Then you have to find hobbies other than chasing skirts.. model planes, car intakes and mods, wrenching on harleys or something, anything to keep you sane and take your mind off of it.

[thatsnotstock]

find a really good porn site.

problem solved.

[illusionstwice]

sounds like your numb. Did you have a good experience with the 6+ yrs GF?

Are u truly over her?

[hiwind]

thanks for all the great replies, and yes I am over her, i blocked her out so much i can't even picture what she looks like anymore. the realtionship was great up until the end thats why we split but i wont get into boring details.

I remember hearing when I was younger when your not looking for a relationship someone will come along unexpectedly, and I believe somewhat of that is true but if you don't put yourself out there you will never find anyone, right.