Hello Agnt004-
If you go to this thread>
Atten: All Honda electrical gurus...
and read my post #15 that will explain how I hooked it up. For the relay placement, go to post #1 in this thread then go to the very bottom of post #1. Now move up 12 pictures. This picture should be of the mounting bolt, if you look to the right of the bolt, you will see a piece of metal with two circles cut out of it(one over the other). I mounted the relay in between the two circles with a small washer and a self-tapping screw. Hopefully, yours will be fine as-is, but if you do need to re-do it; this way should work out well

! Take care.